How To Learn To Trust

Learning to trust someone — especially after being hurt, betrayed, or growing up in an unsafe environment — can feel scary and slow. But trust isn't something that just magically appears; it’s something you build, like laying bricks one at a time.

Here’s how to think about it:

Start with Self-Trust

• Trusting others begins with trusting yourself — your feelings, your boundaries, your gut instincts.

• Remind yourself: "If something doesn’t feel right, I will honor that."

• Knowing you will protect yourself makes it safer to open up.

Take Small, Measured Risks

• Don’t rush full vulnerability.

• Share small things and watch how the other person responds.

• Do they listen? Respect your feelings? Keep your confidence?
  ➔ If yes, you can slowly share more.

Observe Actions Over Time

• Trust is built through consistency.

• Pay attention to whether words and actions match.

• Do they follow through? Are they there when they say they will be?

• One kind gesture isn't enough — patterns matter more than moments.

Notice How You Feel Around Them

• Safe people make you feel calmer, freer, accepted — even if you're being imperfect.

• If you feel like you're "walking on eggshells," that’s important information.

• Trust grows when you feel emotionally safe and seen.

Communicate Boundaries and See What Happens

• Setting small boundaries is a great test.

• Example: “I’m not ready to talk about that yet.”

• Healthy people respect boundaries.

• If someone tries to push past your no, that's a red flag.

Accept That Trust Always Involves Some Risk

• Trust is never 100% risk-free.

• Part of trusting is accepting vulnerability — but it’s a calculated, wise risk, not reckless.

• Learning to trust means balancing hope and self-protection.

Give Yourself Permission to Adjust

• If someone shows you over time they aren't trustworthy, you can adjust how much you trust them.

• Trust isn't "all or nothing" — it can grow, pause, or pull back based on someone's behavior.

Mindset Shift:

Instead of asking:
"Can I trust them?"
Try asking:
"Have they shown me — through actions, consistency, and respect — that they are trustworthy?"

You are not passive in trust-building; you are actively gathering evidence.

Contact Bee Blissful today if you are interested in learning how to trust.

Trust-Building Behaviors

Building trust in relationships—whether romantic, family, or friendships—requires consistency, honesty, and emotional safety. Here are some key behaviors that help strengthen trust over time:

1. Open & Honest Communication

• Be truthful, even when it's uncomfortable

• Express thoughts and feelings clearly, without manipulation

• Avoid withholding information to control a situation

Example: Instead of saying, “Nothing’s wrong,” when upset, try “I feel hurt because…”

2. Follow Through on Promises

• Keep commitments, big and small

• If you can’t follow through, communicate early

• Be reliable in both words and actions

Example: If you say you'll call, make sure you do.

3. Show Consistency Over Time

• Be dependable, not just when it’s convenient

• Align your actions with your words

• Avoid sending mixed signals

Example: If you set a boundary, stick to it instead of going back and forth.

4. Respect Boundaries

• Listen when someone expresses a need or limit

• Avoid pushing people past their comfort zone

• Honor privacy and personal space

Example: If someone needs time alone, don’t take it personally—respect their need for space.

5. Be Vulnerable & Allow Others to Be Vulnerable

• Share your feelings, fears, and experiences honestly

• Create a safe space for others to open up

• Avoid judging or dismissing emotions

Example: Instead of shutting down, say, “I feel nervous sharing this, but I want to be honest with you.”

6. Take Accountability

• Admit mistakes without blaming others

• Apologize sincerely when wrong

• Learn from past actions instead of repeating patterns

Example: Instead of, “I only did that because you made me mad,” try “I take responsibility for my reaction, and I’ll work on handling it better.”

7. Be Present & Attentive

• Listen without distractions (put the phone away!)

• Show interest in the other person’s thoughts and feelings

• Make eye contact and use active listening

Example: Instead of giving one-word responses, ask follow-up questions to show you care.

8. Avoid Gossip & Betrayal

• Keep private conversations confidential

• Don’t speak negatively about someone behind their back

• Stand up for people instead of joining in harmful talk

Example: If someone shares something personal, don’t repeat it unless given permission.

9. Support Through Actions, Not Just Words

• Be there in difficult times, not just when things are good

• Offer help without waiting to be asked

• Show care in small ways, like checking in or remembering details

Example: If someone is struggling, a simple “I’m here if you need anything” can go a long way.

10. Be Patient & Give Trust Time to Grow

• Understand that trust isn’t built overnight

• Allow relationships to strengthen through consistency

• Avoid rushing emotional closeness—let it happen naturally

Example: Instead of demanding immediate trust, focus on proving reliability over time.

Contact Bee Blissful if you would benefit from learning more about trust-building.

How Do We Build Friendships And Not Get Hurt

Building meaningful friendships involves vulnerability, trust, and intentionality, but it also requires realistic expectations and resilience to manage the risk of getting hurt. Here's how to approach it thoughtfully:

1. Start Small with Trust

• Trust is built gradually. Begin by sharing smaller, less personal details about yourself and observe how the other person responds before deepening the relationship.

2. Communicate Openly

• Share your needs, boundaries, and intentions clearly. Friendships thrive on mutual understanding, so being honest from the start creates a strong foundation.

3. Focus on Quality Over Quantity

• Seek out individuals who align with your values, interests, and energy. A few deep, authentic friendships are more fulfilling than many surface-level ones.

4. Be a Friend First

• Practice empathy, listen actively, and show up consistently. Friendships grow when both people feel valued and supported.

5. Accept Imperfections

• No friendship is perfect, and people may unintentionally disappoint you. Learning to forgive and address misunderstandings calmly can prevent minor conflicts from escalating.

6. Set Healthy Boundaries

• Maintain boundaries to protect your emotional well-being. If someone repeatedly disrespects you or causes harm, it’s okay to reevaluate the friendship.

7. Build Emotional Resilience

• Understand that some risk of hurt is inherent in any relationship. When you do feel hurt, process your emotions, reflect on what happened, and see it as a learning experience.

8. Be Intentional About Vulnerability

• Vulnerability is key to deep connection but doesn’t have to happen all at once. Share parts of yourself gradually to gauge whether the other person is willing and capable of reciprocating.

9. Don’t Take Rejection Personally

• Not every friendship will flourish, and that’s okay. It doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you; it simply means the connection wasn’t the right fit.

10. Focus on Long-Term Goals

• Building friendships takes time. Invest consistently, but give yourself grace and space if things don’t immediately click.

Friendships are about connection, not perfection. By balancing openness with self-awareness, you can foster deep connections while protecting your emotional well-being.

If you’re having a hard time building friendships, Contact Bee Blissful. Working with a therapist can help you build these skills.