How To Learn To Trust
Learning to trust someone — especially after being hurt, betrayed, or growing up in an unsafe environment — can feel scary and slow. But trust isn't something that just magically appears; it’s something you build, like laying bricks one at a time.
Here’s how to think about it:
Start with Self-Trust
Trusting others begins with trusting yourself — your feelings, your boundaries, your gut instincts.
Remind yourself: "If something doesn’t feel right, I will honor that."
Knowing you will protect yourself makes it safer to open up.
Take Small, Measured Risks
Don’t rush full vulnerability.
Share small things and watch how the other person responds.
Do they listen? Respect your feelings? Keep your confidence?
➔ If yes, you can slowly share more.
Observe Actions Over Time
Trust is built through consistency.
Pay attention to whether words and actions match.
Do they follow through? Are they there when they say they will be?
One kind gesture isn't enough — patterns matter more than moments.
Notice How You Feel Around Them
Safe people make you feel calmer, freer, accepted — even if you're being imperfect.
If you feel like you're "walking on eggshells," that’s important information.
Trust grows when you feel emotionally safe and seen.
Communicate Boundaries and See What Happens
Setting small boundaries is a great test.
Example: “I’m not ready to talk about that yet.”
Healthy people respect boundaries.
If someone tries to push past your no, that's a red flag.
Accept That Trust Always Involves Some Risk
Trust is never 100% risk-free.
Part of trusting is accepting vulnerability — but it’s a calculated, wise risk, not reckless.
Learning to trust means balancing hope and self-protection.
Give Yourself Permission to Adjust
If someone shows you over time they aren't trustworthy, you can adjust how much you trust them.
Trust isn't "all or nothing" — it can grow, pause, or pull back based on someone's behavior.
Mindset Shift:
Instead of asking:
"Can I trust them?"
Try asking:
"Have they shown me — through actions, consistency, and respect — that they are trustworthy?"
You are not passive in trust-building; you are actively gathering evidence.
Contact Bee Blissful today if you are interested in learning how to trust.
